Coaching Challenge: Connecting = Trusting

Pat Barber Coaching, Coaching Challenges

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship… Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.”

Brené Brown knows her stuff.

And every coach knows that we’re in the business of relationships.

We cannot push people to their thresholds and force them outside their comfort zones if they don’t trust us.

Trust requires connection, relationship.

So the first order of business is to connect with people more often.

Start with 3-5 people each class if you want to keep things simple.

Ask yourself, how can I make these 3-5 people feel more seen, heard and valued?

It’s a natural, in the moment thing.

Be where your feet are.

Fully engage in conversation.

Pause, take an extra moment to make eye contact and really coach someone.

Ask more questions. Listen carefully. With an open mind and heart.

Let them be vulnerable. Angry. Confused. Shy. Loud. Human.

Notice how truly connecting with someone makes you feel in your body.

How could connecting more make you feel differently about being a coach?



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Pat Barber

Pat Barber

You might know me from the CrossFit Games, where I’ve competed since 2008, but I have also been the Head of Coaches Development for one of the largest CrossFits in the world. I have the honor of being one of the few L4 coaches, and I still love teaching L1s and L2s for CFHQ (I’ve put about 15,000 coaches through their L1’s). I'm husband to the most wonderful woman in the world, and a father who loves surfing, Magic: The Gathering, knife making and good coffee.

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